My mind wants to speak

You know how you have an idea in your mind and you have to ask yourself am I wrong?

So here is my problem when is it okay for your spouse to be holding "casual" conversations. Like 12am or 1am can be okay but when does it become too late. Like nobody wants to set rules and barriers on a relationship but when does it come to the point that the wrong message is being sent. Like say if its 5am in the morning why would I be carrying on a conservation with someone else's man. Is it that my relationship is too friendly or that we feel too independent to believe that the other can say " hey that's a little uncalled for".

I find myself not liking a lot of things but what do I say to have my voice heard and be taking into consideration. I believe that just because he is okay with everything does not mean I am. I have many reasons to be worried and I am worried. I do believe that his actions are the reason for many problems. The things he begin to brush off I take very seriously. So am I over thinking the situation, or is he not thinking enough. I have come to the point where I am letting too many things slide but I am not happy with the message he sends out. I do not believe he sees things through my eyes. So I wonder when will it ever stop because I feel like even though it may be harmless it boils down to a lack of consideration. I believe he may not even factor in the message he sends to people. I was to watches hisself better, because he is just living but never wants to face whats comes with it. Just not sure how much I can bite my tongue.